I am Wim
Intimacy is my language
Transformation is my work

I believe that real connection starts with yourself. If you know who you are and what you need, the way you connect with the people around you also changes.

I help people like you who run into problems in their intimate relationships. With the help of in-depth body based, transformative constellations, workshops and more, I reveal the path to deeper connectedness and a loving relationship.

This is how I aim to reunite the masculine and the feminine.

The masculine is often associated with action, strength, purpose, and protection, while the feminine represents intuition, softness, connection, and creativity. These energies are seen as complementary and ideally should be balanced for inner wholeness. Somewhere in the world — in society or in individual lives — an imbalance has arisen between these two energies. Restoring this balance fosters harmony and well-being.

My Journey to Conscious Sexuality

Grateful for the Challenges on My Path

Hello beautiful soul, I’m glad you’re here to discover more about me.

For me, sexuality represents the creative force of all life — what has been brought to life, what is being brought to life, and what will continue to come into being. My life journey has led me through many challenges, shaping me into the person I am today. I am deeply grateful for this journey, no matter how long or rocky it has been. Every obstacle I’ve overcome, every experience I’ve gained, and every difficulty I’ve endured has contributed to who I am. The same goes for all my moments of success, encounters, and beautiful experiences along the way.

A Complex Relationship with Sexuality

An Unexplained Fear

As a child, I already had a complex relationship with sexuality — a kind of “love-hate” dynamic. I felt strongly drawn to everything related to sexuality, yet something always held me back from fully enjoying it. After countless breakups and relationship struggles, I began searching for what might be “wrong” with me. I started reading books, doing personal work, taking courses, attending workshops, and participating in trainings. I began to see the world in a very different way.

Still, something didn’t quite fit. I realized that in my relationships with women, there was something deeper I didn’t fully understand. As a young man, I had been shy, but later I recognized that there was fear toward women within me. The question remained: where did this fear come from?

The Turning Point

An Intense Process of Awareness

I discovered the answer in 2017, when I was confronted with the sexual abuse I had experienced in my childhood — a trauma I had buried from my awareness for about forty years. This marked a turning point in my life, exposing a profound lie I had carried. Shortly after, all the pieces of the puzzle fell into place.

Thanks to the preparatory work I had done in personal awareness — through courses and trainings — I had developed the resilience to face it. The process was intense and emotional, yet incredibly valuable. I gained insight into the choices I had made in my life, the partners I had attracted, and my relationship with sexuality.

The Importance of Finding the Right Support

Connecting with My Pure Sexuality

After a year of processing and therapy, I was able to make sense of many things and better understand the triggers connected to the abuse. I finally connected with my “pure sexuality.”With my experience in bodywork and guidance, I could respond quickly and effectively.

This connection with my pure sexuality brought greater awareness, freedom, joy, and passion into my life. I could now enjoy sexuality without needing it to lead somewhere. Yet, I discovered something else I hadn’t been aware of: the sexual inhibition present in my partners. From this, I developed skills that allowed women to feel safe enough to open sexually in my presence. This marked the beginning of my passion for guiding people on their journey to their essence and sexuality.

The Value of My Trauma

Presence, Sensitivity, and Safety

I am deeply grateful that I have been able to transform my greatest trauma into something meaningful and valuable. The qualities I developed through that experience — such as true presenceand heightened sensitivity— now allow me to be of service to both men and women who wish to connect with their essence, sexual energy, and life force.

Presence and sensitivityare essential in my guidance around sexuality, creating a safe space where clients can relax and open up. Often, I receive feedback like, “With you, it feels safe to do this.”Integrity, openness, and humor are central to my work. Integrity means honesty and transparency, without avoidance. Openness provides clarity and safety. Humor and the ability to put things into perspective bring lightness to working with sexuality, which many find refreshing.

So, now you know me a little better.

But before you decide to work with me as a therapist, you probably want to know more about my background.


And I completely understand that. That’s why I’ve listed my most relevant experiences below. If you have any questions — about me, sexuality, practical matters, or anything else — don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here to help, even if that simply means guiding you toward the right source of support.

My Work Experience

What I’ve Done

Founder & Director of Born 2 Be

Relaxatie - Yoga - Meditatie - Relatietherapie

2014-2023

Providing both one-on-one guidance and group workshops in the fields of meditation, relaxation, yoga, family and systemic constellations, and relationships.

Founder of Het Passiehuis

Coaching – Massage – Reiki Sessions

2012-2014

At Het Passiehuis, I offered coaching, massages, Reiki, and workshops on “emotions vs. feeling”to help others reconnect with themselves on a deeper level.

Founder - wimvandenbergh.com

Relationship Therapy – Constellations – Workshops

2023 – Present

Guidance and support to create a deeper connection with yourself, find your own balance, and from there, live a fulfilling life.

Founder & Director of Buylbergh

B&B / Center for Consciousness Development

2016-2021

In the German Eifel, we offered a peaceful and inspiring retreat center for workshops, surrounded by nature and complemented by healthy, nourishing food.

Founder of Spirri-Wii

Organizing – Expressing – Experiencing

2010-202

“Spirri Wii”was founded to introduce people to various methods of self-awareness through experiential workshops.

Education & Training


The inspiration behind my work and my life

Therapist training “Roads to sexual dignity”

Continuing Education at De Rode Parel (2025)

Alchemy of Bodywork: earth element

Training at Life Projects (2026)

The Alchemy of Creation: The 8 Core Principles

Training at Life Projects (2025)

Alchemy of Bodywork: Fire element

Training at Life Projects (2025)

Alchemy of the Wise Man

Training at Life Projects (2024)

Alchemy of Love

Training at Life Projects (2024)

Alchemy of Creation: The 8 Basic Principles

Training at Life Projects (2023)

Polyvagal theory & practice

2-day refresher burnout Academy (2024)


Alchemy of Bodywork: water element

Training at Life Projects (2022)

Alchemy of the Wise Man

Training at Life Projects (2023)

Ritual Play facilitator

Training Marina Kronkvist (Finland 2022)

Alchemy of Bodywork

Training at Life Projects (2022)

Alchemy of Life

1-year training at Life Projects (2021)

Conscious male sexuality

Training at Erik Decolveneare (2022)

Trauma therapist Practitioner

1-year training at Open Mind (2015)

Trauma therapist Master

1-year training at Open Mind (2016)

Tantra annual trajectory

Annual training at Yatri (2014)

Burnout coach

Training at Open Mind (2015)

Youth coach

Training at Open Mind (2013)

Grief therapist

1-year training at Open Mind (2014)

NLP Master

1-year training at Arcturus (2011)

Family and organizational coach

1-year training at Open Mind (2012)

NLP Practitioner

1-year training at Arcturus (2010)

Holistic massage

Training at Centrum Voelen (2010)

Reiki 1st degree

Training at The Crystal Pyramid (2009)

Reiki 2nd degree

Training at The Crystal Pyramid (2009)

Ready to break old patterns and create deeper connections?

My work is not for everyone—and that is intentional. I work with people who are ready to make a serious investment in themselves and their relationship. If that resonates with you, you are warmly welcome to a 20-minute introductory conversation. No obligations, just honesty.

For those ready for a serious investment